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My current game started out with the DM, my sweetie and me, back in January. A few weeks in, thanks to Meetup.com, we found our wizard. A few weeks ago, the DM brought a friend from work who'd played 3.5, but not fourth. Upon hearing she was female, I was happy because there would be some additional estrogen in the room.
Except I want to strangle her. When her character arrived, her quest was in line with our current plan. Since then, she's made several comments about "doing better on her own." When she's doing that, she's trying to run the team, whereas before, while we were on my quest, we worked in kind of a democracy.
When the wizard came into the picture, we were desperate for help, of any kind, and my bf's character had history with them. Nobody has history with her character, and I can't tell if I dislike the woman playing the character or just the character.
And she works with the DM and gets on well with him, so no chance of her being tossed. He's got to see her every day at work.
What do y'all do to keep yourself from harming annoying players? Besides find a new group--we're working on that, but may stay with this one as well.
Except I want to strangle her. When her character arrived, her quest was in line with our current plan. Since then, she's made several comments about "doing better on her own." When she's doing that, she's trying to run the team, whereas before, while we were on my quest, we worked in kind of a democracy.
When the wizard came into the picture, we were desperate for help, of any kind, and my bf's character had history with them. Nobody has history with her character, and I can't tell if I dislike the woman playing the character or just the character.
And she works with the DM and gets on well with him, so no chance of her being tossed. He's got to see her every day at work.
What do y'all do to keep yourself from harming annoying players? Besides find a new group--we're working on that, but may stay with this one as well.
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First of all, how many players are unhappy? If it's just you, you're stuffed. If not, you have something to work with. However, in gauging this, don't let yourself put together a gang vs annoyingplayer - watch during the game for signs of annoyance, rather than having a backbiting session. It's less satisfying, but easier in the long run.
I would have a word with the DM - not putting in a complaint, but asking how they feel the game is hanging together and if they're happy with the dynamics, then put forward your experience. If the DM can't keep you all playing together happily, then you have to cut your losses and move on.
All of this is very general advice, though, because I feel I am missing a good grasp of exactly how and why she's annoying - how has she ended up wrecking the democracy? Is she going off in her own direction, or just making comments? Has she played before, or is this her first time?
When the wizard came into the picture, we were desperate for help, of any kind, and my bf's character had history with them
This is ambiguous. I really don't get what you mean here at all.